99 steps to reclaiming your individuality Step #29
Learning to focus our perspective:
During the course of any-one day, we are barraged with sensory input. Unannounced to us consciously is the categorizing, the storing and the enabling of this input.. To our nature states, this is just the daily routine, they (the natures) do not have bad days or good days, do not shift from one state to the other, they simply record and signal responses to sensory input that has been conditioned to impress on them. And wouldn't our lives be so much simpler, if we could just trigger our emotional responses the way we select items from a vending machine. Unfortunately this is not the case. Then why do most self-help ideologies assert that this is the simple solution? Simply choose the emotions you would like to emulate, and control the ones you wish not to express, simple right! Sadly we just weren't built that way, and no amount of practice, conditioning or regiment will make it so, well, at least not for very long.
It is when we start to view our personal makeup along the lines of the many selves in one, that we can see the folly of a lot of the propositions put forth in various self-help regimes. Albeit most-likely well intentioned, they always propose change by constraint or omission, but seldom by acceptance and reflection. If we use anger as an example; restraining anger is a process we all have done, but it does not resolve it. to use the analogy of slowly filling a balloon with water, and depending on the size of the balloon (tolerance), we may be able to place an enormous amount of water in the balloon, but it will eventually reach its breaking point. Now the resultant explosion that occurs (which is inevitable) is not the point here, but that restraining something is not resolving it. And it is when we have these unresolved states accumulated that we experience both emotional duress and societal uncomfortableness.
If on the other hand when any of our emotional states are triggered, and in reality this is all that is happening when we are happy, sad, angry, afraid, worried etc, etc... If we will acknowledge the state, that simplistic act has just rested power from it. And in that action you have unconsciously set-up an invisible release valve, so that this state now has a method by which it can now dissipate. Why you may ask would I want to do this for a state of happiness? Consistency! Having healthy emotions does not imply that they are in a fixed state, rather that they are in a fluid state of expansion and contraction, think of it like an accordion, motion is exerted sound is released. And the more we practice the more harmonious the sound.
When we focus on ourselves experientially, we are not, as some would imagine, taking the joy out of life,and replacing it with a mechanical expression of it, we are simply returning the authorship of life back to ourselves as it was intended to be. We are not being asked to abandon the experiential bounty of the emotional states, but simply acknowledging their boundaries, and establishing for ourselves the limits of those boundaries. When we focus on this, we will see life through an integrated new perspective, and we will further experience the harmony of the one in many, the many in one.
It is when we start to view our personal makeup along the lines of the many selves in one, that we can see the folly of a lot of the propositions put forth in various self-help regimes. Albeit most-likely well intentioned, they always propose change by constraint or omission, but seldom by acceptance and reflection. If we use anger as an example; restraining anger is a process we all have done, but it does not resolve it. to use the analogy of slowly filling a balloon with water, and depending on the size of the balloon (tolerance), we may be able to place an enormous amount of water in the balloon, but it will eventually reach its breaking point. Now the resultant explosion that occurs (which is inevitable) is not the point here, but that restraining something is not resolving it. And it is when we have these unresolved states accumulated that we experience both emotional duress and societal uncomfortableness.
If on the other hand when any of our emotional states are triggered, and in reality this is all that is happening when we are happy, sad, angry, afraid, worried etc, etc... If we will acknowledge the state, that simplistic act has just rested power from it. And in that action you have unconsciously set-up an invisible release valve, so that this state now has a method by which it can now dissipate. Why you may ask would I want to do this for a state of happiness? Consistency! Having healthy emotions does not imply that they are in a fixed state, rather that they are in a fluid state of expansion and contraction, think of it like an accordion, motion is exerted sound is released. And the more we practice the more harmonious the sound.
When we focus on ourselves experientially, we are not, as some would imagine, taking the joy out of life,and replacing it with a mechanical expression of it, we are simply returning the authorship of life back to ourselves as it was intended to be. We are not being asked to abandon the experiential bounty of the emotional states, but simply acknowledging their boundaries, and establishing for ourselves the limits of those boundaries. When we focus on this, we will see life through an integrated new perspective, and we will further experience the harmony of the one in many, the many in one.
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